Zen Fridays – Wisdom Gem 2

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(This is a re-post. Will be continuing the “Wisdom Gem series” for every Friday. This was part of series of “wisdom” handouts that was created in the past for my retail customers and my students.)

“Flow with whatever may happen, and let your mind be free:
Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing.
This is the ultimate”.
~ Zhuangzi

Reflection by Esther
Go with the flow!
That will be the best advice that one needs to have in any given situation. Resistance is going to make things worse for an individual and the people surrounding him. Rather than going against, “flow” into any circumstance and be at ease. It is better to “flow” and accept the moments. Once we have learnt how to live our lives in that way, nothing can dampen our spirits and the life we live.

Zen Fridays – Wisdom Gem 1

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(This is a re-post. Will be continuing the “Wisdom Gem series” for every Friday. This was part of series of “wisdom” handouts that was created in the past for my retail customers and my students.)

“When you look at a field of dandelions,
You can either see
a hundred weeds
or a hundred wishes”.
~ Unknown ~

Reflection by Esther
How we view life or a particular situation is entirely up to us. No one can change the way we think of something unless we ourselves allow it to happen. Rather than looking at something, someone or a situation as negative and a hindrance, why don’t we step aside and look at ways on how we can learn or benefit from it. We all have to remember that anything negative that is taking place in our life is not permanent. Everything will pass at ease if we allow our thoughts to change accordingly. We must always see every situation in our life an opportunity to advance further. We must never let a bad situation drive us to darkness, depression and negativity.

Yoga Hyde: Clothing & Blog Posts on Yoga

I get my yoga pants from Yoga Hyde and not only their clothing is great, their blog posts on yoga too.

Below are the blog posts which might be of interest to you. Most importantly, it is easy to understand and suitable for quick reading…

yogi’s guide to public health: aparigraha
https://yogahyde.com/aparigraha-and-public-health/

yogi’s guide to public health: brahmacharya
https://yogahyde.com/yogis-guide-to-public-health-brahmacharya/

yogi’s guide to public health: asteya (non-stealing)
https://yogahyde.com/asteya-and-public-health/

yogi’s guide to public health: satya (truth-telling)
https://yogahyde.com/satya-and-public-health/

yogi’s guide to public health: ahimsa (non-harming or non-violence)
https://yogahyde.com/ahimsa-and-public-health/

By the way, my all-time favourite pants will be divine drawstring (purchased since the year 2016) and colleen pant (purchased since the year 2018).

For divine drawstring pants,
https://yogahyde.com/product/divine-drawstring-pant/

For colleen pants,
https://yogahyde.com/product/colleen-pant/
Enjoy reading…and browsing too… 🙂
Best Wishes,
Esther

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International Day of Happiness – 20 March

Times might not be right to be celebrating this…but it is necessary to be in gratitude and in happiness whatever that can be happening around us.

Refer to this link on how we all can come together to face the crisis: https://www.dayofhappiness.net/#new

There is also a 30-day coping calendar available for download.

Blessings,

Esther

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…there is still hope…and every single hope begins with each one of us…

Daily, all of us are receiving news of the coronavirus and how the numbers are increasing around the world. While this is no easy news to digest, this is also not the time to discriminate against a group of people and/or country. In this difficult time, all of us must be calm and positive. We should make a point to turn all negative energy into positive energy through prayers, compassion and thoughtfulness.

Below are various articles on suggestions as to how we can better manage the current crisis. Let us all come together as one united family to assist each other in this difficult time.

Amid “darkness” and confusion over the virus, there is still hope…and every single hope begins with each one of us.

Love & Peace,
Esther

Sources of Information

From Sadhguru on Coronavirus Outbreak in China (YouTube Video)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mP-mCfo4-f8

From The Chopra Center, Sheila Patel, M.D., Chief Medical Officer “Anxious About the Coronavirus? Here Are Eight Practical Tips on How to Stay Calm and Support Your Immune System”
https://chopra.com/articles/anxious-about-the-coronavirus-here-are-eight-practical-tips-on-how-to-stay-calm-and-support?utm_source=Newsletter&utm_medium=Email&utm_content=200310-March-Newsletter&utm_campaign=Newsletter2020310

“Healing COVID-19 – Method to Transmute the Diseased Energy”, by Saummitta A Mazumdar
https://reikirays.com/73291/healing-covid-19-method-to-transmute-the-diseased-energy/

From Live & Dare, Giovanni D., “Meditation and the Coronavirus”
https://liveanddare.com/coronavirus-meditation/

From Sassy Mama, “10 Things Parents Should Know About Coronavirus (That We’ve Already Learned in Singapore)”
https://www.sassymamasg.com/10-things-parents-should-know-about-coronavirus-singapore/

From Flowing Zen, Sifu Anthony, “11 Practical Tips For Dealing with the Coronavirus”
https://flowingzen.com/21048/11-practical-tips-for-dealing-with-the-coronavirus/

From Ministry of Health Singapore, Infographics
https://www.moh.gov.sg/covid-19/resources

From HealthExchange.sg
https://www.healthxchange.sg/men/health-scares-outbreaks/how-to-keep-safe-novel-coronavirus-self-care-tips?utm_source=memberenews-feb20&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=hxcmemberenews-feb20

Reiki Practitioners / Healers, you might find this useful:
“Eradicate Coronavirus”, by Rinku Patel
https://reikirays.com/73177/eradicate-coronavirus/

12Mar2020

“There is a saying in Tibetan,
‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’
No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.”
~ Dalai Lama ~

Wisdom Gem No. 1

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“When you look at a field of dandelions,
You can either see
a hundred weeds
or a hundred wishes”.
~ Unknown

Reflection by Esther
How we view life or a particular situation is entirely up to us. No one can change the way we think of something unless we ourselves allow it to happen. Rather than looking at something, someone or a situation as negative and a hindrance, why don’t we step aside and look at ways on how we can learn or benefit from it. We all have to remember that anything negative that is taking place in our life is not permanent. Everything will pass at ease if we allow our thoughts to change accordingly. We must always see every situation in our life an opportunity to advance further. We must never let a bad situation drive us to darkness, depression and negativity.

(This was part of series of “wisdom” handouts I created in the past for my retail customers and my students.)

Wisdom Gem #1

Graduation in Our Daily Life

My workplace is located at a University Campus. During late June and July, the scene of the University grounds changes to that of graduation, plenty of posing for photos in the graduation gowns, with friends and family, happy moments, etc. Graduation or other words, upgrading to the next level is not only restricted to students who are studying. It is also applicable to all of us too. In our daily life, we are always learning – learning from experiences, relationships, emotions, feelings and more. Therefore, should we not be graduating too? Yes! Definitely.

Just like how a student goes through his difficulties in his education term, we too experience that in our daily life. Each day, we become newer and wiser with our experiences. We also must celebrate our graduation from our good old self to our better self. Past mistakes, regrets and negative attributes – who does not have it? On and off we need to reflect upon our past self and congratulate our new self…

If we do this regularly, we would have plenty of reasons to love our new self and embrace new beginnings (or openings) in our life…

Happy daily graduation everyone!

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Celebrate our existence…

Today I celebrate my entrance into this world (that is my birthday). I take this time to wish anyone celebrating their birthdays on this day and for the month of January. And of course, wishing “Happy Birthday” to myself too! 🙂

Most importantly, I thank everyone (including the “Big Boss”, the Creator) who has and will be part of my life always…

Esther Birthday Cake from Awfully Chocolateawfully chocolate cake

Why wait for the world or someone to celebrate your existence? Always be in the celebration mood – and what else is better than each one of us to celebrate ourselves, our purpose and our living? When we truly understand and appreciate ourselves and our existence it will be easy to find and see beauty all around us. Nothing in the world is perfect – including us. I do not believe in waiting for something to be “perfect” to celebrate. It is important to celebrate when there are imperfections too. After all, each one of us is unique. Each one of us possesses certain qualities due to various reasons, according to our life purpose and/or life path.

Therefore, do not wait for a special occasion to celebrate yourself…you can begin now and you can do it on a daily basis…

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“A child is born on that day, and at that hour when the celestial rays are in mathematical harmony with his individual Karma. His horoscope is a challenging portrait, revealing his unalterable past and its probable future result. But the natal chart can be rightly interpreted only by men of intuitive wisdom – These are few…”
~ Sri Yukteswar Giri ~

Website: Reiki Rays, 2019 Reflection & Intention Workbook

If you are into Reiki, Self-healing or a Reiki practitioner, this is a useful website of free articles, downloads and more.

To know more about this website, visit this link: https://reikirays.com/about-reiki-rays/

In addition, they have a free download for welcoming 2019 with reflection and intention: https://reikirays.com/thank-you-newsletter/create-your-year-reiki-workbook.php

There are also many other articles by various Reiki Masters and Teachers. I am sure you can find something useful here.

Blessings,
Esther

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My life is like a dandelion…

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My life is like a dandelion.

Why do I compare my life to a dandelion? I am sure that there many other things out there than just dandelions? Yes! Definitely. A dandelion brings out feelings of freedom, emotional release and more. It is more like a “release” feature than to hold.

BBC.com describes the life cycle of dandelions (https://www.bbc.com/bitesize/clips/zhrb4wx),

“A look at the life cycle of a dandelion including wind-aided seed dispersal. Once fertilisation has taken place the plant will produce seeds. Plants such as dandelions often use wind to transport seeds. Each dandelion seed comes with its own individual parachute. This device works very well and only a slight wind will carry seeds high into the sky. As there are so many adult plants in one place there is no space for the next generation of plants to grow. The dandelion therefore needs the wind to carry the seeds far away. New plants are formed and the whole process starts again.”

Website, “Flower Meaning.com” describes dandelions and its symbolism beautifully.

http://www.flowermeaning.com/dandelion-flower-meaning/

What Does the Dandelion Flower Mean?

The common and humble Dandelion has a surprising amount of different meanings. The Dandelion means:

  • Healing from emotional pain and physical injury alike
  • Intelligence, especially in an emotional and spiritual sense
  • The warmth and power of the rising sun
  • Surviving through all challenges and difficulties
  • Long lasting happiness and youthful joy
  • Getting your wish fulfilled

Since the Dandelion can thrive in difficult conditions, it is no wonder that people say the flower symbolizes the ability to rise above life’s challenges.”

And no wonder I prefer dandelions!

I have encountered and survived many difficulties in my life. I am at my present stage of my life here because of my hard work. There were no short cuts offered to me. All was with hard work sprinkled with determination and courage. After surviving so many ordeals in my life, on and off I feel lack of self-worth and self-confidence. I realise feelings of self-love and self-worth has to continue in any person as long as one lives. You cannot put a brake on those. Over the years, there were many occasions when my determination and courage was tested. I managed to get through those. The one thing I failed in the past is to take good care of myself! I took care of others, their needs and their future – but I did not do anything for myself specially and thoughtfully. At the same time, I know that it is no use blaming others. The truth is that I should not blame anyone for the negative feelings or emotions I have created in my life.

A quote by Nicole Bailey-Williams puts it beautifully,

“I was a dandelion puff…Some saw the beauty in me and stooped quietly to admire my innocence. Others saw the potential of what I could do for them, so they uprooted me, seeking to shape me around their needs. They blew at my head, scattering my hair from the roots, changing me to suit them. Yet still others saw me as something that was unworthy and needed to be erased.”

I also found a beautiful YouTube video of the life cycle of a dandelion by Neil Bromhall. View it to enjoy the transformation.

In addition, there is more information on dandelions at Building Beautiful Souls website by Bernadette King

https://www.buildingbeautifulsouls.com/symbols-meanings/flower-meanings-symbolism/dandelion-meaning-symbolism/

Video of Time lapse Dandelion flower to seed head by Neil Bromhall

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Manage Stress

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Ayurveda offers simple and easy to follow ways to reduce stress at any time. It is important to do regular self-checks for stress. If we ignore the stress symptoms, our body slowly develops illness and/or other negativity. The more we delay self-checks and self-management of stress, the harder and longer it becomes to achieve a balanced and calm state of mind and body.

Banyan Botanicals has shared an article telling ways to control stress. Do take time to read…to benefit your body and its systems.

An Ayurvedic Guide to Stress Management by Banyan Botanicals
Click here to go the article

In addition, Banyan Botanicals also has a page where you can take quiz to know your Ayurvedic compositions, etc. Feel free to visit the other pages for information on herbs, yoga and more.

Let us spread love and joy not only this holiday season, but all the time! And let us begin with ourselves…

Peace and Blessings.

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Be gentle and loving to your own good self

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“Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.”
~ Margo Anand ~

Many times, I am the worst critic of myself. At times I get so hard on myself that I find it impossible to believe that I am doing it!

In the past, it has always taken much effort to love myself. Often, I was critical and even annoyed with myself over many aspects of my life and its happenings. Often, I took on the blame for other people failures. It took me a while or should say many years to realise that I do not need to carry all the burdens of everyone around me. It also took me awhile to love the person as I am. I lacked confidence in a number of aspects, for example in the way I look, dress, speak and more. While it does not need anyone to say anything negative to me, I could instantly, in a snap be very critical of myself that it brought me down in terms of emotions to negative thoughts and feelings. Often, it took plenty of courage on my part just to love myself. Afraid that I might look like a failure, I kept all of these to myself not wanting to discuss these aspects with anyone.

I am in my 40s now. Looking back, I could see many moments of life wasted just by being a critic of myself. That not only brought more bitterness to me but it also did not let me enjoy life and its moments. Spiritual knowledge or just to love myself is what I needed. While it is easy to go out to the world and proclaim, “I am the worse critic and I lack self-confidence,” I did not want to do it as society had its own expectations of me and most importantly, I had my own expectations of myself. I was afraid to talk about it to humans. Nevertheless, I turned inwards many times to my inner self and to God and his guides for direction and assistance. I am quite sure I received some kind of help from the inner self. At the same time, my self-critical voice was too loud to hear the inner voices. I wasted my life moments going around like a self-negative bomb, ready to burst on anyone that triggered it unknowingly.

The good thing to know is that your inner self NEVER gives up on you. My inner self made me search – search endlessly wanting to put an end to this very negative and dark areas. My inner self lead me to music, books and poems. The music piece that triggered in me a positive self-change and wanting to love myself more was “Adiemus” by Karl Jenkins. One day many years back in my dark negative self, I just played the CD (I had purchased the inspiration moments 1 collection of music), “Adiemus” piece came. I just closed my eyes and drifted away – in peace, in love and in bliss. I was so peaceful that it is now impossible to explain in words. As of now, I play that piece of music and I can get goosebumps! Another music piece that will offer me peace and love anytime will be “Nightingale” by Yanni. This music piece brought about a closer connection to Nature or Mother Earth. It was as if it was erasing my negativity and replacing it with pure love (like a mother cradling a child with love). I wanted these peaceful and positive feelings to persists and wanted to carry it with me always and forever. I was silly not to realise that those wonderful positive feelings was always there – in me and in everyone too. We put a mask over it – by our expectations and societal expectations. Once the mask is up, we forget our true beautiful and lovely selves.

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My search went on and then I stumbled upon Self-Realisation Fellowship Parahamansa Yogananda book, “Journey to Self-Realization (Collected Talks and Essays, Vol 3)” and I was just so inspired and felt more loved and worthy by reading this book. It seemed that Parahamansa Yogananda was speaking directly to me on all my issues.

(The links to the music pieces and books are at the end of this post)

Another great mystic whom I love and respect is Rumi. He changes the reader with his beautiful poems. Rumi woke me from my negative sleep. He together with other Masters and Teachers made me see the positive value of my life. As Rumi puts,
“Close your eyes, fall in love, stay there.”

Slowly, but surely I made progress. Now, my critical self is quieter these days as I spend by being in Zen (by conscious living and living in the moments). However, my critical self is not totally “dead” or gone. It comes on and off making me think negatively over something or someone. I suppress the negative self-talk by focusing on my breath, nature (if I am outside), mantra, meditation, prayer, writing, coloring, drawing and more. I gently “kick” my negative thoughts and feelings away, replacing it with positive thoughts and feelings.

Often, it is very easy to fall into the trap of making ourselves look vulnerable and self-pitiable for so many negative and unhappy happenings in our life. The first step of remedy is to realise that we brought upon ourselves these negativity. In addition, we also need to realise that we are the Masters of our own life. Therefore, it is right that we erase it and replace it with positivity by our own efforts. It is not the responsibility of the world, society and family to get it done for us. We need to act like a Master and correct it.

These days there are many options out there to get it right. Books and music are easily available in electronic versions. Music is one way to find peace and unity with your own self. The only thing is that you just need to search for the right one to lift your spirits. Written works or books allow us to get in touch or connected with Ancient Masters. If you rather have people comfort, there are many support groups out there. If you are determined to get things right and / or sorted, the options will be available to you in many forms and ways.

The biggest mistake anyone can make is to waste his / her life precious moments in self-pity and negativity. To counter that, one need to love himself and be gentle at the same time. In fact it is so very easy to start loving our own self. We can start immediately without having to getting any clearance, approval or not doing much. After all, it is about us and life.

My friends, the year is ending soon. 2019 will be here soon. Take this opportunity to do a “self-check” and get rid of any mental clutter and negativity. It is now or never. You might not make great progress at a start. A small step is what one needs. Indeed, it is a big favor one will be doing for himself.

Imagine yourself as a positive bubble. There will be no one out there who will be able burst that bubble if you do not let them do it. If they try to burst your bubble, you can always tape it up with self-worth and self-love. I have done it and I am still doing it. Many others, who have experienced similar or different ways of negativity, have overcome it.

Let us all welcome 2019 with a big hug and wave a big bye to 2018, with gratitude…

“To be beautiful means to be yourself.
You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. “
~ Thich Nhat Hanh ~

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The links to the various music pieces that made a difference to my life

Link to Adiemus by Karl Jenkins
Video (from YouTube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLjDAxHiDQ4
Audio (from YouTube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UX__4aHwYzM

Link to Nightingale by Yanni
Video1 (from YouTube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPc5kMrStkY
Video2 (from YouTube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=inWzjwLmiPo

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The links to the books that has made a difference to me and is continuing to make a difference to many others in the world…

Link to the Self-Realisation Fellowship Parahamansa Yogananda book, “Journey to Self-Realization (Collected Talks and Essays, Vol 3)”
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6604259-journey-to-self-realization

Link to Man’s Eternal Quest (Collected Talks & Essays 1) by by Paramahansa Yogananda
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/648109.Man_s_Eternal_Quest?from_search=true

Link to Rumi’s Little Book of Life: The Garden of the Soul, the Heart, and the Spirit by Rumi, Maryam Mafi (Translator), Azima Melita Kolin (Translator)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14343182-rumi-s-little-book-of-life

Link to Dancing Into the Light: An Inner Journey Guided by Rumi by Rumi, Omid Arabian (Translation), Shilla Shakoori (Illustrations)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/32165751-dancing-into-the-light?from_search=true

and more…

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An Inspiration / Motivation

For those who already know, I am into PostCrossing. For those who are keen to know more about PostCrossing, you can read the details here.

2 days ago, I received a postcard (as part of PostCrossing initiative) from Jacki of USA. What captured my attention was firstly the picture of the card (an owl!!!) and also the wording printed at the bottom of the card. The pictures are posted here and I also type the words after this just in case, it is not clearly visible…

The postcard is a painting by N. Kirsten-Honshin,“Mystical Messenger of the Morning Light”

Sacred Beauty Messenger

Spirit of the Night

Recognizing Each Moment

As a Precious Gift

Your Message is not only of the Darkness of the Night

But of the returning Morning Light

My further reflection is that in each moment, be it filled with bitter moments or pleasant moments, it has always something to convey to us. It is up to us on how we wish to take the lessons and experiences. Not all lessons or experiences can be pleasant. Should we have the mindset to look at the everything around us as a “precious gift”, life will hold more value than what we think. We might not get whatever we wished for immediately or we might not even get whatever we wished for at all. The most important thing is to always look for “hidden” blessings in any situation. If we choose to look at all moments in a positive way, life would not be difficult to live and we will not carry negativeness in us. This is not easy – but for anything – it is a matter of trying – it is a matter of choices. Who else is going to make the choices? We…we choose the kind of thoughts to carry in our minds and hearts…no one is responsible.

Since we have the choice, why not make the right and wise choices now itself?

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Kintsugi or Kintsukuroi

I have ever touched on Kintsugi or Kintsukuroi topic before. This is a reinforcer on that from Mindful company…

https://www.mindful-company.com/blogs/notebook/what-is-kintsugi?utm_source=Website&utm_campaign=00785f9605-20180802_WOTM&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_657b536f8f-00785f9605-154401753&goal=0_657b536f8f-00785f9605-154401753&mc_cid=00785f9605&mc_eid=3c77398888

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Acts of Self-Love

It has been a long while since I posted something. Hope to be back at regular intervals to post something…today, I came across an article from the “Mindful Company” on acts of self-love… After all, we do not need the world to love us first. We need to love ourselves first…Enjoy loving and believing in your own self!

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Mindful Company – Acts of Self-Love

https://www.mindful-company.com/blogs/notebook/21-simple-everyday-acts-of-self-love?utm_source=Website&utm_campaign=00785f9605-20180802_WOTM&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_657b536f8f-00785f9605-154401753&goal=0_657b536f8f-00785f9605-154401753&mc_cid=00785f9605&mc_eid=3c77398888

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